Talking About Resistance

By Author: Ana Garcia
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Our reactions show our pressure points, but how can we avoid having our heart in our sleeve?
I was in the office the other day and I noticed that my boss was talking and, all of a sudden, I didn't feel his conversation as I normally used to. There were things he used to say that would mirror issues of authority, power, control that would bother me, maybe because I was struggling with wanting to be a free soul but, at the same time, kind of selling my soul for a wage It sounds a bit harsh, I know. But then I thought he is always checking my face for reactions and if I go blank, he looses his temper really fast! He likes to know that I am in control so that he doesn't need to worry that there is going to be a hole in the department and that he may need to spend some time and energy sorting it out. So then I thought to myself that if I can use the strategy of not showing my reactions, I could buy some time, a few seconds, which would give me the opportunity to think what to say in a more efficient way. You see, sometimes we think people can read what we think and maybe they can but maybe not! So I came to the ...
... conclusion that it is all to do with boundaries. Opossum tells us that the best strategy is no-strategy. If you don't defend something, if you don't argue about something, if you don't show that something bothers you people move on to the next target, so as to speak, since we are continuously engaged in a tug of war for energy and this is represented in games of manipulation, giving and taking balance-unbalances, and other emotional patterns. When you don't react, you are not showing the buttons that can be pressed in you. People love a reaction to a provocation. That is the fun in it. If there is not a reaction, they get bored and pick on someone else. This is the game and all the players must participate. If you don't participate, you are labelled such as living in another world or you are boring or you are just on another level and this is simply because you are not filling others' expectations of you. So when you don't react, you are actually avoiding friction or resistance. By doing this, you are giving yourself a much bigger area for growth because other people do not set up your limits or boundaries. You do! The next thing that happens is that you automatically become an observer, and outsider in the game. And the amount of learning you can do is amazing just by watching the exchanges of energy among others. It is a very privileged position to have, a position that some people cannot achieve in a life time because it entails to drop who you used to be and give yourself a chance to grow into someone new, someone much more powerful, with many more resources, and someone with the opportunity to start creating your life instead of reacting to all the external circumstances. When you start allowing the energies to take their course, they flow in the direction they are meant to. You then can choose where you focus your attention and, therefore, your energy, so you start shaping your reality because intention creates your experience. In a word, you become a magician! How? Well; you realise that as you focus on a thought, the reality associated to this thought seems to come to you. Do you ever have the realisation that something comes to your life (it can be something as small as a friend's letter or something as big as a new job/ relationship) just as you had been thinking about it? What you actually did was to attract the external manifestation of your thought or seed of your intention. This is what is called creation. Once you learn the trick, you can start creating bigger and more wonderful things! We miss the point when our ego decides that he wants to be centre of stage and fights back by placing seeds of doubt in your mind. The most important thing is to realise that our senses are the navigation panels of our body or physical vehicle and that the creative side of our nature or intuition is the captain giving instructions and directions on where to guide our physical gear. It takes huge strength to bend the ego into accepting intuitive guidance. Here the main ingredient is faith. Faith allows us to be strong enough to let go without needing the clear and obvious support of physical boundaries or reasons, explanations, justifications or proof! The great thing about it is that, as you focus on your intentions (for instance, you don't ask for a car but you focus on the feeling of freedom, movement, speed and independence that this gives you; or you don't ask for a three bedroom house but you focus on the feeling of safety, comfort, warmth, privacy that this would give you, comprendes?) you start creating a path where people, friends, family, work, relationships, synchronicities, occurrences seem to line up, and a corridor is created where the flow of who you are can reach others, and, BINGO! COMMUNICATION occurs! Your soul will naturally guide you to communicate your gifts more fully. So now you are becoming the architect of your life, the designer of your future. Your mind becomes inspiration, your body becomes stamina (you are now working with the natural rhythms of your body since you stop pushing yourself when the energy is not there) and your spirit becomes your purpose. Things around you simplify. Because you start strengthening yourself, you need fewer things, you spend less money in things you really didn't need but thought were buying you some happiness or comfort. Food stops being an issue of anxiety and emotional support and becomes sustenance. You can say no to people and you waste less time doing things that others thought should be your priorities. You are in charge. And it feels awesome! For the first time in your life, you have control because you released all control. You have love because you stopped buying and selling who you are. Your need for acceptance disappears because you love yourself anyway, so there is nothing or no-one you need to be in order to love yourself. Do you see the pattern? And because you are happier in your skin, literally, you attract others at the same level. And they also like you, love you and accept you. And all you have to do is STOP DOING! (Why didn't anyone tell me this before?). They say anything is possible. I say anything is possible when you are ready for it. The secret is to get your mind-body-spirit prepared for it. Then it becomes possible. The reality changes to align itself to your focused mind in a natural and effortless way. So focus on what you want and let your intuition dictate your steps. It may take one month or ten years, but you will become much more powerful in the process. And a much happier person for it! About the Author Ana is a Reiki Master, Spiritual Coach and works with Native American spiritually based Animal Strategy. As a result, Ana helps people untangle themselves from painful emotional turmoil and struggle by attaining inner harmony, detachment and self-reliance. Ana will help you draw out your inner wisdom so that you can tackle life challenges in practical and inspiring ways.