Failures Or Stepping Stones

By Author: Sharina Smith
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Have your disappointments ever led to something wonderful that you never expected? Have your failures been stepping stones or have you let them become road blocks?
As I rapidly approach that pinnacle year of 40, I find myself often looking back over my life and wondering where all the time has gone. Twenty years ago I left the Ozarks to make my way in the big city, and it seems just yesterday since I returned to West Plains, Missouri from Philadelphia even though it has already been seven years since my homecoming. What have I learned in twenty-some years of adulthood? I have learned that we only have today to live. Tomorrow might come and yesterday is over. I have also learned that all the events in my life that have been dismal failures now seem but stepping stones to the eventual accomplishments and joys I have had in my life. Many self-esteem experts are loathe to use the word, failure, and instead encourage us to say challenges or learning opportunities. I disagree with these experts. Their euphemisms are nice but they don't take away the pain of defeat, do they? I now embrace the word, failure, because ...
... messing up frankly hurts. While I scoff at the self-esteem gurus, I know that it is through these mistakes, washouts, bombs, disappointments, defeats, fumbles, botches, slips, misadventures, and debacles that I have learned the most important lessons of my life. Every failure has indeed been a learning experience, but it would be wrong to simply call these difficult times by a different name just to ease the pain. My failures were indeed painful, but they were also stepping stones, sometimes slippery, to the greatest joys in my life. How do you view your failures? What have you learned? What will you do differently because of your experiences? Have your disappointments ever led to something wonderful that you never expected? Have your failures been stepping stones or have you let them become road blocks? The poet John Keats called failure: The highway to success. I think he is an expert with whom I can definitely agree. About the Author Sharina Smith is a Missouri-based writer, wife, mother, and singer who is on staff in her church's worship and music ministry. If you need encouragement for the journey, email Sharina for more information about her consulting services.