How To Stop A Break Up Even If You Are The Only One Trying

By Author: Allan Lim
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How to stop your breakup if your lover is already ready to go? This will require you to take a number of steps. Therefore, some patience is needed from your part.

First, has you lover initiated the break up already and you want to get him/her back? If you have just break up, it is of utmost importance that you do not make the following mistake. If you have already done that, don't worry too much about that. You still have the chance to reverse the situation. (Note: It doesn't matter whether you are a man or a woman, what you are going to learn below applies to member of both genders)

1) Do not argue about the breakup

It may seem counter intuitive but if you really think about it, it will start to make sense.

Arguing about the break up will only make your lover more defensive. Even if you can't accept the reason for breaking up, don't blow it up. Chances are your lover may not even be telling you the real reason.

Why is that so? There can be many reasons. Probably, he/she thinks that particular reason will hurt you least.

So, instead of getting all work up about it, just try to stay ...
... calm and cool about it. I know it may not be easy but this can be very crucial. If you have already done that, don't worry. You can send him a note during an appropriate timing, and say something like, Well, I have thought about it, I think you are right about the break up.

Once advantage of doing this is, you are showing your lover that you have the capability to handle things calmly. This will cast you in the positive light and with subsequent actions; you will be able to get him/her back to you again.

2) Don't be over persistent

What do I mean by over persistent?

It means contacting your girlfriend again and again. This is a very common mistake that a lot of people make, especially when they just broken up. Yet, this is the number one thing that you do not want to do just after a break up.

Why is that so?

First, when you have just broken up, you won't be in the right emotional state to make the right decision or take the right action.

Second, you do not want to appear needy or desperate. This will make you appear undesirable. If you have already been doing it, it is a good time to stop now.