Can I Get My Ex Back Since My Situation Seems Very Hopeless

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How can I get my ex back? My situation seems hopeless and I don't think I can do anything about it.

If you are in the above situation, try not to worry too much. It is true that not all relationship can be salvaged or are worth saving. However, it is also a fact that there are many people who are in the midst of seemingly hopeless situation being able to salvage their relationship.

For example, there are men/women who had affairs, not once but many times. Somehow, they managed to get their wives/husbands to forgive them. Then, there are couples who break up; a year later, they are back together again.

If you truly believed that this relationship is worth pursuing, then there are certain things that you must do in order to increase your chances of reconciliation.

(To make things simpler in this article, I will use he, she, him, her interchangeably. The tips below apply to both genders)

1) Agree With Him
He can tell you any reason why he chooses to break up. Chances are he may not be telling the truth or do not want to tell the truth. He may have his reason for doing that. Therefore, ...
... there is no point to argue with him even though you can't accept his reason.

Just graciously accept the break up and give each other time to cool off. Perhaps, it may seems counter intuitive to you. However, there are certain psychological factors at work here. The more you argue with him, the more he wants to get away from you.

2) Stop All Contacts With Her For The Time Being

You may want to send her a short message or letter suggesting not meeting up for the time being. Probably two weeks to a month. Tell her that perhaps both of you need some time to think through things. Whatever the end result is, both of you can still be friends in the future.

The reason why you want to do that is because you do not want to appear needy. You want to show her that you can handle things in a very mature manner. This attribute is very attractive to the opposite gender.

Of course, you will still need to deal with your emotional turmoil. So instead of thinking of him constantly, try to find something to distract yourself. Something that you are interested in doing.

Are you interested in sports? Perhaps, you can try squash. Just hit the ball real hard to vent your anger. Of course, try not to injure yourself. And don't ever resort to alcohol. It will only make you feel even more empty.