What Am I Doing Wrong In Relationships?

By Author: Douglas T Adams
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They say breaking up is hard to do. Break-ups are very common in fact sadly enough, it happens to everyone at some point in time. For many women, relationships coming to an end are hard due to lack of closure. So very often, they are left wondering what they did wrong.

While I can't be a miracle worker this area I can provide some very common mistakes that women tend to make. It's not complete, but it's definitely a good insight. Continue to read and evaluate how you've been doing on the dating game.

1. Thinking you can change who he is.

Many women get involved with men with undesirable habits, and cling to the relationship hoping that he'll improve with time. They tend to feel like the man requires the woman's help in order to change.

Well, that's actually not how it works. You see, women are attracted to a man not by how nice or good he is, but by gut feelings. She 'feels' that her man is nice and good deep inside, and that they can remedy the shortcomings if they tried hard enough.

Sadly, this gut feeling doesn't exactly translate to a deep connection with him. In other words, trying to ...
... change him is like trying to teach a pig to sing - it wastes time, it doesn't work, and it annoys the pig.

Gut feelings are well and good, but it's better to trust your intuition instead.

2. Assuming good looks are enough.

Women tend to think that men only care about an attractive physical appearance. Also, many women think that men aren't very verbally communicative. Therefore many women resort to using provacative body language to gain a man's attention which gives off the wrong impression.

It's not that simple. Looks may be most obvious way to get the train started, but it's hardly the best way. The right thing to do is to use a combination of verbal communication and body language. It takes practice, but a man is less likely to be smitten by a beautiful woman than by a beautiful woman who can also carry a good conversation.

3. Acting like someone that you are not.

I may be stating the obvious, but it's worth repeating: Men aren't happy in a relationship if the woman isn't happy herself. A woman should never lose herself by trying to satisfy a man's every need and desire. A man can't have respect for a woman that isn't confident of who she is. Acting like a prostitute or a slave won't get you anywhere.

4. Being too honest too fast.

Almost all successful,physically attractive, and single guys have healthy dating lives. So women who raise the most red flags are the ones that give too much information on the second or third date. For example: women who say, 'I really feel like I'm falling for you', too easily and too early. It gives off an idea that she's a clingy type who rushes into relationships.

The smartest thing to do would be to ease up and let the relationship mature on it's own.

5. Not seeing the signs.

Men subconsciously show signs that indicating how evolved your relationship is. The signs give clues on how ready he is to go further in your relationship. BY watching him closely and accurately judging what he says, you may find out where he is coming from.

(a) The Social level - he talks about life in general, what he's up to and how he's doing. (b) The Emotional level - he starts giving clues that he's ready to be emotionally available to you. (c) The Physical level - he begins to tell you what and why in reference to the things he likes about you whether it be your body or clothes, etc.. (d) The Love level - he lets you know that he is in it for the long run.

Well, here are the signs. So learn them and know how to answer them for a better relationship next time.