Looking Ahead Looking Behind

By Author: Todd Royer
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This article may be reprinted in newsletters and on websites, with resource box included. If using this article, please send a brief message to: toddroyer @toddroyerwriting.com -- word Count= 411 words with 39 word resource box -- word Wrapped to 55 characters-per-line. -- URL: http://www.toddroyerwriting.com/show.php?id=011 -- autoresponder: article11@royal-responder.com --author photo: http://www.toddroyerwriting.com/pic.htm --date of copyright: August 2005 This article was checked by spamcheck and is spam-safe. Looking Ahead Looking Behind Have you ever argued with someone who's passionate about a sports team? Or maybe their passion was for a hobby and you blundered into a discussion contradicting something they felt was unassailable. If you argued, logic didn't really win the day. Passion just doesn't work that way. All the facts in the world won't change a true believer's mind. The best ...
... you can hope for is an agreement to disagree, or a truce of silence. People have feelings about all kinds of things, not just hobbies and sports. Learning to identify passions, both your own and others, is a critical skill for career development. One of the tricks to understanding what someone else feels strongly about is to find out what they are looking forward to, and what they have done in the past. In other words, start looking ahead and looking behind. This happens naturally in conversation. When people talk they tend to drift towards the future or back to the past. It's a logical approach to feelings and yet, feelings are not logical. For example, last year I introduced my friend, Phil, to my brother, Jack. As it turns out, my brother's a passionate baseball fan and my friend's a part-time professional baseball scout for the Chicago Cubs. Once my brother learned Phil was a professional scout, the first question out of Jack's mouth was: how long have you been doing that? We talked for another ten or fifteen minutes with lots of detailed baseball questions, but it wasn't long before Jack again asked Phil: are you going down to Spring Training in March? In the course of fifteen minutes my brother had questioned Phil about both the past and the future. Their passion for baseball was clear. By discussing both the past and future of their common interest, they signaled that passion to each other. You'll find it's the same with everyone else. If they have strong feelings, whether negative or positive, asking about the past and the future will give you a read on their commitment to this area of interestwhatever it is. The flip side of this is: when you hear someone talking about the past or the future, you can assume there's some kind of an emotional connection to whatever's being discussed. If you hear your boss talking about how they used to do things, you might want to ask how he fells about the old way. You may learn something. © by Todd Royer. All Rights Reserved. *******# # #******** Todd Royer has been writing for the internet for 2 years. He has helped hundreds of people with their professional growth. If you would like a free subscription to Career Development Weekly, click below: http://visitor.constantcontact.com/optin.jsp?m=1101053082339 ******************************** A list of Career Development articles by Todd Royer are available for reprint at: http://www.toddroyerwriting.com
About the Author Todd Royer is a seasoned career development specialist. He is experienced in managing organizational growth by recruiting competent confident people. Currently he is Senior Partner at DiscoveryTech, Technical Recruiting.