Coaches Or Judges? (the Power Of Expectations In Our Lives)

By Author: Lee Wise
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All rights reserved EXPECTATIONS Expectations frame how we see ourselves and others in a variety of life settings. For instance, I have often found myself feeling a range of emotions (sometimes not so good!) when I "preview" in my mind what I *think* may happen in a certain setting: What I will say
What I will feel How others will react Etc. And when I do... I usually develop what might be termed "an emotional mind-set" that I carry with me into that setting. As you know, that can either be good or bad! EXPECTATIONS ARE POWERFUL! In short, our expectations carry with them a certain "power." They have the power to build healthy relationships or destroy those relationships. It is not much different in our own lives. How we see ourselves thinking and acting in a variety of situations will tend to be the force which motivates us to higher living or causes us to come up short in terms of living up to our full potential. COACH OR JUDGE? The question then becomes: Will the expectations we hold of ourselves and others become the "coaches" which challenge us to live lives of excellence or the ...
... "judges" that sentence us to live out our lives imprisoned within the confines of our own self-imposed limitations? TWO IMPORTANT WORDS In my way of thinking, whether or not the "judge" or "coach" wins in any given situation is largely determined by what these two words represent: 1. Truth
2. Discipline TRUTH Truthful thinking must prevail if the "coach" is to win! That means... *Generalizations can't be allowed to to prevail or go unchecked *Fears must be placed in their proper place
*Evaluations of myself and others must be based on reality instead of the emotions of the moment
*Etc. But something else is needed if the coach is to win... DISCIPLINE I must *discipline* myself to think those truthful thoughts. Why? Because the training of my mind and heart means time and effort on my part. There is simply no way around it! Time and time again I must say "No!" to the wrong thoughts and "Yes!" to the right ones! In order for healthy expectations to win the day, I must *repeatedly* hold up the shield of truth as I engage the forces of false thinking in the battlefield of my mind. WHO'S WINNING? I trust that the "coach" is winning in your life! That is, your expectations are based on truth and are... *Propelling you toward living a life of excellence
*Assisting you in building healthy relationships with others THE BEST TO YOU! May the truthful and positive expectations you have of yourself and others lead to many, many beautiful moments in time for you -- both now and always! Lee ********************************************* Lee is a seminary administrator, has a part- time business at home, and writes his own motivational mailing entitled "A Beautiful Moment In Time." Permission is given to distribute article. This entire paragraph must be included. You may contact him at lfwise@aol.com or by visiting here -- http://www.retirequickly.com/89863