Parenting: Understanding Children Behavior

By Author: JACQUELYN HESTER COLLETON-AKINS, PHD.
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Parenting is not easy. It requires a lot of heart, dedication, and passion to raise a child the way they need to be raised, which is the right way. Raising a child is hard, especially when you’re new to it and you have totally no idea what to do and how to do things. In parenting, you need to understand your child’s behavior, his patterns, and his personality. By doing so, it will be easier for you to adjust how you should discipline him to be a responsible being in the society.

Raising a child starts from infancy until they are adults. What are the common difficulties of parents in understanding children behavior? Here are a few:

Oftentimes, parents expect that their children will do the things they want. I understand that parents only want what’s best for their children, but in doing such, please don’t force your children to do the things that are out of their interests. Personally, I was pressured as a kid to do well in school. That’s normal, right? But what made it hard for me was to live up to my parents’ expectations because a single mistake could make them sad and disappointed. ...
... And the worst thing you could feel is knowing that they aren’t proud of you. Parents say that no matter what happens, they’re proud of what you achieve. But it doesn’t sound easy when they don’t show you the very thing they keep on repeating. Don’t be too demanding and be open-minded. Your children will do better if they aren’t choked.
Children tend to pick every little thing from their parents, from the words that come out of their mouths to the way they say and act things. When you talk to your kids, make sure to talk to them face to face. Don’t yell at them from a distance because they will copy it. This kind of parental behavior reflects upon your child’s behaviour, and when you find how displeasing it is, you will realize that it gets harder and harder to understand, if not controlled and seen too soon.
Explain things to your kids in a way that they will understand easily. Also, when they do something wrong, give them the chance to explain how and why it happened. Don’t allow yourself to let your child take all the blame because you don’t know if maybe your kid just made an unintentional mistake. Children, just like typical adults and normal feeling-filled human beings, tend to become distant when they feel that they are not heard.
Be easy on transitions. Children tend to get attached because they are still young. When you decide to move them to another school or move to another country, it’s not easy for them. Be calm and understanding with thw tantrums they might throw because it’s not easy to process how you won’t get to see your friends anymore because your moving over to another unfamiliar place. Adjustments also take time.
Decision making. Give your children the freedom to decide what they want, especially when they grow up to become responsible adults. This way, they won’t feel the need to keep running to you when they need something, and they will grow up to be responsible individuals.

Remember to let your children explore because you will not always be around for them anymore when they become adults. It’s normal to feel scared of losing a child, but who doesn’t ever feel this way as a parent. Your children have minds of their own and attitudes of their own. What’s important is that you always try to understand why they behave the way they do, and when you see something wrong, correct them in a way that they will not find that you are judging them.

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