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Caring Vs. Caring Too Much
DEFINITIONS
Caring - Being concerned about outcomes; paying just enough attention but not too much; to feel trouble or anxiety; to feel interest or concern. To overlook the progress of others and projects, but to have faith and confidence in other people to look after themselves and do things well enough.
Caring too much - Being too concerned about outcomes; paying too much attention; feeling too troubled or anxious; feeling overly concerned; not believing other people are competent and capable. Hovering over them and transmitting your anxiety to them so they become dysfunctional.
COMPARISONS
Supervising a project vs. Hovering over the person
Being concerned about someone and interested in the outcome vs. Worrying anxiously over someone and trying to take over.
Managing vs. Controlling
Transmitting emotions of confidence and self-assurance v. Transmitting fear, worry and anxiety
EXAMPLE
Alice cared about the outcome of the project and made herself available to the team for input and supervision. She had high emotional intelligence ...
... and was flexible and creative in planning and outcomes. She delegated easily and well. Because of this, the team worked well, and had the stamina to finish in style with plenty of energy left over for the next project. Everyone enjoyed working with Alice because she brought out the best in them and they built their self-esteem by completing successful projects.
Harry was overly concerned about the project. He was critical and demanding of himself and others and had low emotional intelligence. He could not be satisfied with less than perfection and drove himself and others. He hovered over everyone which destroyed their self-confidence, confused them, and pulled their focus away from the work. His worry caused them to worry and undermined their self-confidence. As the primal leader, he transmitted his anxiety to others. Every team and project he drove this way became cynical, insecure, exhausted and burnt out. No one wanted to work with him or under him, and the best people would transfer out of his department. Eventually he was fired.
KEY POINT
When you become overly concerned and caring, you cross a line into what's called an overdriven striving. You focus on it too much and can affect your own thinking and functioning, as well as that of others. You demand too much and usually get too little. It's exhausting to everyone concerned.
BENEFITS
We are truly helpful to ourselves and to others when care enough, but not too much. It's important to have faith and confidence in others, and give them room to breathe, grow and blossom.
RELATED DISTINCTIONS
Excellence vs. Perfectionism
Managing vs. Controlling
Overseeing vs. Hovering
Having faith in others v. Having faith only in yourself
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©Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc . Coaching, distance learning, and ebooks around emotional intelligence for your continued personal and professional development. I train and certify EQ coaches. Get in this field, dubbed white hot by the press, now, before it's crowded, and offer your clients something of exceptional value. Start tomorrow, no residence requirement. Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for free ezine and more infor, or call 210-496-0678.
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